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"Decision
Making Tips for Wave Riders!"©
What influences are you under?!
by Indigo Irwin Kennedy
Based on Theories from the Book - The Wave Riders ®
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If life is the sum of all your
choices and if changing how you do things changes your life
then choosing what you want to do or be in life should be
a simple decision to make. How can we help ourselves to make
good decisions?
Decision making for the multi-talented
Wave Rider can be very difficult. Like taffy on a pulling
machine, often our talents are pulled and stretched in multiple
directions. If we do not learn to focus, breathe and watch
"where we are going" our excitement over a new project
could undermine our "good goals".
Sometimes we need (or want)
a full revision on our lives and finding what direction to
take can be an arduous task. Many of us have come to believe
that everything is possible if you know your direction but
what if your direction leads in many directions?
What if you are multi-talented
and multi-interested and every time you try to go through
the process of making a final decision, you end up back at
the beginning, like a dog circling before lying down you continue
completing 360 circles in perpetuity.
The result: frustration, a feeling
like you are getting nowhere, wasted days and wasted nights.
Making a decision can be one
of the hardest things to do so I have compiled a few considerations
for you. When you are making a decision it is important to
know where your thoughts are coming from at that moment in
time. It is also extremely important to understand what experience
or emotion those thoughts may be base on.
Here are some items to consider
as you ponder your life choices.
Are your thoughts...
FEAR BASED:
- We will overextend ourselves
and we will lose everything.
- We will not be happy with
the new set up and will regret moving.
- I am not who I need to be
(a golf pro) to do the things that I want to do!
- If I don't do it someone
else will beat me to it so I have to do it right now!
- I must know everything about
it before I make such a decision or it won't be right.
FAITH BASED: (careful
- may appear faith based but is adrenaline based)
- I will be supported in whatever
I do.
- I have all the necessary
attributes to do what I want to do and the skills that I
do not have I can learn whatever skills I need.
- No matter what happens I
will be looked after.
- don't know how I will make
this happen, but I know that if I walk in this direction,
and continue to do what I can each day, with the resources
that I have at hand, that the rest of what I need will come
my way.
ADRENALINE BASED:
- This is it - I can make it
big, be rich, everything will run smoothly!
- It is perfect! It is so beautiful!
- have found the answer to
"everyone's" problems - Golf therapy
- have to do it NOW!!! RIGHT
NOW!!!
- God has sent me the answer
to my prayers
LOW WAVE BASED
- I could just run away - hide
- quit what I am doing move to Hawaii.
- I am too old to try something
new - I wish people would just leave me alone.
- What if my family hates it
and leaves and I get lonely in the winter when it is shut
down?
- This is just a pipe dream
nothing good every works out for me
- If I build it - no one will
come.
- I am not special enough,
talented enough, good looking enough…
MID WAVE
- It could work and I think
I could enjoy the combination.
- Even if I was alone on this
I could do it.
- I would enjoy this no matter
how I felt (up or down - young or old)
- I can learn while moving
out of my old job that way the bills will still be paid.
LOGIC BASED - Calculation
This is "smart" thinking not necessarily "right"
thinking comes from.
- It will have to precisely
analyze with every detail laid out before I do it.
- If I sell ____ memberships
at ____ dollars I will make ___ dollar toward my bills.
- Based on statistics, there
will be a need for lots of this service in the future.
INUITION BASED SAYS:
- When I think about this I
feel good inside, not hyper but calm and at peace.
- I feel a need to play "Golf"
- I feel a need the fresh air
- I feel that it is what I
am destined to do
- Something about it just feels
right
- I don't' know how it will
work out but if I do it I know it will be okay.
FUTURE THINKING BASED
- If I invest some time for
free today or I invest money today - I will have a better
future
PRESENT DAY THINKER
- I will not study or put in
any time for free today - I must be paid today no matter
what
WHAT are your CORE Beliefs?
- What is it that you believe
about life around your? What silly thoughts do you have
about what you can and cannot do in this world?
What are your CORE Values?
- What is it that is really
important to you…narrow it down to just 3 for simplicity.
If your decisions do not nurture or enhance your Core Values…reconsider
them.
Remember there are really no right decisions. What is right
for you may not be right for someone else. Other people have
views and desires that may not be suitable to you.
Each decision will lead you
to a different life experience and some decisions lead you
to painful experiences. Often we learn a great deal more from
the hard times than we do from the path that leads to "easy
street". So don't beat yourself up for the decisions
of your past. Learn and grow from them.
When you are ready to seek a
new direction or to make a decision, it is very important
for you to know "where you are at" when you are
deciding. For example, if you are up on "adrenaline"
or "low into depression" you will not make a decision
base on "real circumstance".
If you are a "Present day
thinker" and not a "Future based thinker" you
may not be able to see the possibility for success down the
road. Realizing what type of thinker you are can open you
up to getting help in analyzing what others see down the road.
If you are a logic based thinker
- ask an intuitive thinker what they see. In the end, the
decision must be yours.
Don't ask too many questions
or involve too many people or their opinions may have you
doubting yourself and you may end up back spinning in circles.
There are many methods that
can be used to help make a decision from future visualization
to writing down the pros and cons. All these methods will
help you once you firmly establish that you are on mid-wave
(so not influenced by adrenaline or lack of serotonin).
Decision making experts may
tell you to "jump" by using your intuition because
they believe that worse mistakes can be made when you analyze
too much. This could be true, however, for Wave Riders that
can be a license to "party". For Wave Riders, someone
telling us it is "okay to go with our gut" can send
us a little too far and we may misinterpret "going with
our gut" with too much adrenaline and now we believe
"God is leading the way".
I am all for "God directing
us" but I do want us to be sure it is God and not the
drug of adrenaline that is pushing me to become a missionary,
giving up all that I have and moving to Africa.
How do we know what is real?
By waiting until we are mid-wave
to look at the decision again before we jump! If it is "God
directed" then the inspiration will still be there when
we are mid-wave and yes, even when we are depressed. But if
it is adrenaline based - it will fade away and you will be
thankful that you took the time to wait. This wait may take
a day, a week, or even a month….you will feel a change
in your energy. If you feel that you "just can't wait"
because this opportunity will never come again - you are very
likely being "adrenaline driven" or "smart-driven".
Real opportunity happens without panic.
When Wave Riders don't wait
to "come to the middle" before "jumping"…
they can do things that can negatively effect their lives
and the lives of people around them. On a high wave they can
invest too much money and time on something that can "make
us rich". On a low wave we can quit jobs or relationships
or activities that we actually like and want making us feel
unreliable.
What are the consequences of
not waiting to make that decision?
Here are some comments that
I have heard…
- "I left my child with
her father, moved to Mexico" and said "what have
I done".
- "I could not stand my
family anymore so I moved out", then regret stepped
in later.
- "I spent all of our
money on new toys for the kids and now we are further in
debt".
- "I took my friends all
out for the night on my credit card - why did I do that?"
- "I invested, once more
in a multi-level get rich quick scheme and now I don't want
anything to do with it! Why do I keep doing that?
- "I ran off with someone
I met on the Internet before I had a chance to think about
what I was doing. Now I am living in a trailer park eating
squirrels for dinner.
- "I lost my wife, my
house, my sanity I could not stop spending my pay on stupid
things."
- "I created a company
- it was a great product, but after 3 years at it I realized
I never really wanted it. I was driven by adrenaline to
do the right thing because there would be a lot of money
in it. In the end I hated it, gave up and lost all the money
that I had.
Taking on a job or a project
during an adrenaline high for a "forward thinker"
can mean financial ruin and is very common among Wave Riders.
Ever wondered why you don't
seem to have the energy "to make it to the finish line
of success"? It is likely that the path you chose was
based on what your adrenaline rush said was a good idea or
it was "smart thinking".
"Smart thinking" can
sound like this.
- "Smart girls have careers
not babies".
- "There will be a large
demand for computer programmers, even though I am a person
that loves the outdoors, becoming a programmer is the smart
thing to do.
"Smart thinking" has
driven many people to take on careers that are so far away
from who they are meant to be that they cannot finish the
task. They drag themselves out of bed to do a job that they
hate every day because now … it is the only way that
they know to pay the bills. They eventually stop just short
of the finish line to success because they simply could no
longer drag themselves there. Often they will believe that
something is wrong with them because they should be able to
continue, not realizing that they have forced themselves to
be someone that they are not.
The person whose passion is
"to lead tourists into the backcountry", who can
climb mountains for 10 hours, may not have the energy required
to work on a computer program for even a few minutes a day.
If "smart-thinking" convinces them to become a programmer
the end result would more likely depression and finanicial
ruin.
It is not about how much you
will be paid.
It is not about how smart
it is to do.
If you do not chose that which is deep seated within you,
your destination may likely be one of regret.
Today, check your level on the
wave and if you are mid-wave then take a look back on your
life and the decisions you have made, not with regret but
in an attempt to learn from them. See which ones were based
on adrenaline or smart-thinking and see how you can make decision
differently to insure that your future is one that matches
who you really are. If
you are not on mid-wave, then come up from depression first
or breathe deeply and give yourself time to come down from
adrenaline.
Motivational speakers are very
inspiring and can rev up a Wave Rider's surging adrenaline.
Remember, this is your life to paint. Make sure you use your
own special combination of colours. There
is only one person like YOU in this world. There is only one
YOU that will ever have existed or will ever exist in the
future.
If you do not design your life
to match your natural "God-given" self, then the
world will have lost a unique perspective…and who knows
what that perspective would have brought to the world.
One unique person can find cures
for disease, invent something new, or comfort a friend.
You do not have to win a noble prize to be special and to
be unique. You are already both of those things…you only
need to be an honor that who you were born to be.
Today take a moment to think,
that without all the adrenaline or depression or smart-thinking…
Who are you?
Indigo
Indigo Irwin Kennedy
Author: The Wave Riders
http://www.thewaveriders.com
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