Let's have a little fun today and collect the nasty things that we say to ourselves. Lets plunk these words that we use as weapons on our psyche directly onto our supper table to view and digest them for what they really are. Let's start to look at them with the understanding that they are simply wrong, useless for moving forward and dangerous attacks on ourselves. Let's learn to laugh at our negative statements rather than to give to them power or to welcome them into our reality.

I would bet that you think you are alone in you nastiness to yourself. At times, you think that you are alone in your world; you are uniquely awful, uniquely useless and uniquely ugly or old. You think that YOUR life is simply different from everyone else's life. Somehow, the human-being design process really messed up when it made you, because you are simply never going to be happy enough, or smart enough or useful enough. You will never amount to anything worthwhile.

There are millions of people right now allowing these thoughts into their minds.

We all do it. Some of us can easily walk away and some of us take these negative thoughts as real statements of who they are.

The ability to recognize that these statements are not true, and the ability to realize the uselessness of the words used, allows us to walk away from the debilitating pain attached to these thoughts. Focusing on the lack of talent, beauty or wealth convinces our brain that this lack is our truth and this judgment is what your brain will use to determine what you can or cannot do. It will use this negative ammunition to help you make decisions about your life, love, money, community and careers.

Here is a sample of some of the negativity that we share.

• I would have never been created because no matter how hard I try I am unable to live a happy life - In the end none of it matters
• No matter how much I pray, plead, beg, and request from God, delivery from negativity, I remain at my core a defeated soul.
• I am ashamed and embarrassed to say that I hate that about myself …I can't stand that about me… I still am making stupid decisions
• I am too stupid to change, to learn or to do anything new
• If I do something I enjoy I will never make any money at it.
• I am the victim … and by all indications things related to these circumstances will never change...there is no real purpose … that is the true reality. The illusion is in hoping I actually matter - when I don't.
• I'm just bored to absolute tears that this is what it always comes to...a perpetual boring, unproductive, uncreative, mediocre life not worth living.
• I am no longer desirable. I never have been desirable.
• I am too old to be hired or I am too young for anyone to hire me.
• I am too cynical to ever be in a relationship, no one will ever love me.
• Nothing interests me - I will never find anything that I enjoy doing.
• I just do not have it in me or I just do not have the time.
• I am too fat to beloved. I am too skinny to be loved.
• There is no use when the world is so full of hate and destruction.

These ongoing permanently based statements are simply not true, though I will admit they certainly seem true when we are feeling down. The exhaustion makes our mind give into the negative emotion. The brain has used up all remaining stores of the happy chemical "serotonin" and so your brain makes you see your world with this "dooms day" view.

These negative thoughts do not have value. They are not constructive criticism they are demeaning and I hope that you would not allow anyone, including yourself, to speak to you in this way!

These negative statements will not help you to solve a problem, nor will they make you younger or make you look better.

These are the little things that spew from our mouths as we pout about our world. We absolutely must not allow ourselves to roll this negativity around on our tongue. We are not "avoiding" problems; we are simply refusing to focus on problems that are exaggerated due to a state of exhaustion! Visualize yourself as that tired child who is seeing nothing but the bad in their world. View yourself acting out the negative dance and tell yourself to stop being so hard on yourself and get some rest.

Often we forget about the exhaustion and just focus on this negativity until someone else points out that we are tired. If the problem is real then we can find solutions when we are at the middle of the wave, neither up nor down, because we cannot correctly solve our problems when we are down. We will also not make the best decisions when we are pumped full of adrenaline and riding our optimistic high wave. There is no point in worshipping the negative because you cannot solve it from the bottom of the pit...let these statements go!

Let's learn to take our statements that have tell us that we are forever less than we can be and change them to show our minds that the future can be different. Get rid of the words that illustrate the permanent condition. These statements often contain the words "never", always and is.

Let change them to transitional statement such as: I will learn, I will try, I will become.

Take for example the difference between these statements.

• I'm just bored to absolute tears that this is what it always comes to...a perpetual boring, unproductive, uncreative, mediocre life not worth living.

Change this permanent state of being to:

• I am not feeling fulfilled at the moment, so I will look around at some new things to try or learn. I will not wait for the feeling "now I want to do them", I will simply get at it, try anyway and see what develops.
  
  

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• I am ashamed and embarrassed to say that I hate that about myself …I can't stand that about me… I still am making stupid decisions

Change this permanent state of being to:

• Up to now, I have behaved in a way that I am not proud of and so as of today I will learn to do better.
  

• There is no use when the world is so full of hate and destruction.

Change this permanent state of being to:

• There are things I cannot change in this world but I can make the area directly around me a pleasant, loving place for people to come. I will do what I can to make this world better starting with my attitude towards the world.

• I am too fat to beloved. I am too skinny to be loved.

Change this permanent state of being to:

• I am what I am today because of decisions and actions that I have made in the past. Today I will start to be the best that I can be each and every day and I will learn to love who I am through each stage of my development.
  
  Let us make a promise to ourselves during this spring time of rebirth and growth that the next time we start to hear ourselves think thoughts that do not
  nourish and support who we are that we will stop and take a moment to change those thoughts to something that will enable us to create solutions with more positive actions.
  
  Negative thoughts that hound you are not guilt from God and they are not about faith. Those negative thoughts come from inner fears and our focus on what we lack and we want. They may even be a simple way for your brain to attack you to get you to slow down and get some rest. Do not be a prisoner to your mind and the self-inflicted pain from the weapons that it throws.
  
  Which thoughts do you get rid of? Get rid of any thought that does not offer constructive solutions and nurture who you are or who you will become. Anything less than a nurturing statement will take away from your ability to do better and your ability to be all that you can be.
  
  Yours in Faith,
  Indigo Irwin Kennedy
  Beyond the mind, around the heart, fill the soul.